UNBECOMING

Seeing Through the Self We Carry

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What if the self you have been defending is not a core — but a reflex?

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Unbecoming is a quiet examination of how identity forms, how it sustains itself through subtle reinforcement, and how it naturally softens when interference ceases.

Rather than offering a system of self-improvement or a promise of transcendence, this book looks closely at the mechanics of becoming — the moment experience arises and the mind reaches to claim it as “me.”

When that claiming relaxes, something unexpected remains.

Not absence.
Not annihilation.
But balance.

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What This Book Explores

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• The layered survival surface mistaken for identity
• How intersecting conditionings create the illusion of a center
• The second reaction that sustains suffering
• Why non-interference allows experience to complete itself

Drawing from lived observation rather than doctrine, Unbecoming bridges contemplative philosophy and psychological clarity.

It does not argue.
It does not persuade.
It invites.

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Who This Book Is For

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This book may resonate if you:

• Are drawn to contemplative philosophy or non-duality

• Question the solidity of identity

• Sense that self-improvement may not be the full answer

• Value inquiry over belief

• Prefer reflection over instruction

This is not a devotional work.
It is not a productivity manual.
It is not motivational literature.

It is an exploration.

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A Glimpse Inside

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The self is not a core.
It is the density of intersecting conditionings mistaken for a center.

Reaction is natural.
Identification is optional.

What is not claimed does not persist.

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About the Author

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Gregory K. Cadotte is a contemplative writer and hypnotherapist whose work explores identity, awareness, and the subtle mechanics of conditioning. He is also the author of Reaching Out: Healing Stories of The Dancing Buddha and the founder of Light Manor Hypnotherapy.

 

Purchase Options

 

You can purchase Unbecoming through the following retailers:

🇨🇦 Amazon Canada

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🇺🇸 Amazon United States

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Purchase Direct from the Author

If you prefer to purchase directly, signed copies and direct orders are available here:

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Purchasing directly supports independent publishing and allows for personal inscription requests.

 

Continue the Inquiry

 

If the themes in Unbecoming resonate and you wish to explore them in a more personal setting, Gregory offers online hypnotherapy sessions and brief introductory calls.

Learn more at:
www.light-manor.ca

 

Final Note

 

Unbecoming is not about becoming something greater.

It is about seeing clearly what is already happening.

And allowing it to soften.