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Use these insights and primers for whichever emotions fit each of your clients.

Fear

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Fear, as an emotion, isn’t good or bad—it’s useful in some situations for some durations. Fear can protect us. But excess fear can become counter-productive and even dangerous. Now your subconscious mind can find ways for you to keep all the positive things that fear used to do, but without excess fear.

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Anger

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Anger isn’t good or bad—it’s an understandable reaction to an event, for some time. Anger can give us the energy we need to fight for justice in that moment, against that person. But once that reasonable situation and duration are in the past, it’s counter-productive to take that anger with us into other situations, with other people.

Any excess feeling of injustice is burning in just us. Anger burns those that hold on to it. Being forgiving, and letting go of a painful anger, creates a space for clarity and peace.

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Sadness

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We can feel sad when something ends. Yet we could feel happy that it ever was. We cannot know the sadness of loss without the happiness of gain. One might have a life with little sadness and little happiness. You can only lose nothing by having nothing.

Given the choice, we would keep our sadnesses so we could also keep our happinesses. This leads to an equanimity beyond happy and sad, into a peace that passes understanding.

In every smile, there is a tear. In every tear, there is a smile. Whatever appears to come and go is okay. As you are breathing now, you let each breath come, and you let each breath go.

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Revenge

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A desire to make them feel your pain keeps you locked in a cycle of suffering. There may not be such a thing as satisfactory revenge. Everyone pays for their own actions, without you having to be judge and executioner. You can be free from judging them and attacking them back.

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Guilt

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People with a desire for punishment tend to receive it, but many times more punishment than required to even things out. So it’s almost certain that you have suffered enough.

Now you don’t have to suffer anymore. And you don't have to invite others to play a role in punishing you. You can make a new vow:

"Now I no longer hold any guilt or desire any punishment, so we both may be released from a cycle of suffering into peace."

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Pain & Power

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You can realize they were not acting out of real power or strength, but acting out of their pain and weakness. You can break the cycle and realize your real power and strength is in calm, clarity, confidence, and peace.

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Compassion

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You have realized that for that person, in many ways, their life experience and state of mind is already a punishment. You can break the cycle for yourself, so you are freed from their influence.

You don’t act out of your pain to punish. You act out of your power to forgive and allow natural justice to take its course, while you focus on your own wisdom of compassion.

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