For continuation of Review 

Review The Scenes

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Review the significant time when you were X years old in that location (e.g., the school) with that person (e.g., your teacher).

Go back to a moment just before the start.

• So you are in (e.g., the classroom) and (e.g., your teacher) has not said anything to you yet.

• See your younger self there, as if you are watching a TV show.

Now imagine you can pause that scene. You are in control here, so you can just decide that everything pauses.

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Inner Wise Adult

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Recall the image you created to represent your inner Wise Adult.

• Step into that scene as the older and wiser adult you are now.

• Let that Younger You know that you, as a Wise Adult, are here to support them.

• Start by giving that Younger You a hug. How does that feel?

Imagine you can take the adult wisdom you have now, and all the resources you have gathered in your life, back to your Younger You.

Wouldn’t it be nice if you knew then what you know now?

Knowing what you know now, what can you tell the Younger You?

• Tell them what they need to hear. (You get past this and become a Wise Adult.)

Now your Wise Adult self can coach that Younger You. Can they understand and accept it?

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Perspective on Others

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That person back then (e.g., your teacher in the classroom) was an adult, but in those moments they were not acting from their wise self. They were acting from their pain and confusion.

In that moment, they could not care for you or be a Wise Adult for you. That is why you are here, because you can care for yourself.

You can go back to the moment and be a Wise Adult for yourself.

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Empowering Statements

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How does that affect the Younger You’s knowing and thinking?

Can you say:

• I am good enough.

• I am lovable.

• I’m going to make it.

• Life gets better.

• I become an adult and parent myself.

You are good enough.
You are lovable.
You make it.
Life gets better.
You become an adult.
You get to do it your way—a better way.

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Replay the Scene Knowing What You Know Now

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Now we can replay that scene, but this time it can be different and better.

Now you know what is going to happen. You are not caught off-guard. You realize what's really happening instantly. Your reactions are not your first automatic reactions—they are new actions you can choose.

Start with the beginning, where… (e.g., the teacher talks to you.)
But this time, imagine you have your Wise Adult self as a coach. Imagine you can act knowing what you know now. So you can act differently and feel differently in that scene.

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What Happens This Time?

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• What are you doing?

• Is it like you can rewrite the scene, so what happens changes?

• Or is it like you re-view the scene, so what happens is the same, but the way you think and feel changes?

How do you act? How do they react now?

Play it forward to the middle, making adjustments.

• What else is changing about the actions and reactions of you and the other people?

• Or what else is changing about the way you understand and feel about that scene?

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Coach That Younger You

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Play that forward to the end of that old, outdated scene. See it play out in a new, better way.

You might see that Younger You (e.g., giving your teacher) a speech with your Wise Adult talking through you—calm, clear, and confident—and this time (e.g., walking out of that classroom) feeling good.

Events in the past that had created difficult emotional residues are being transformed right now. You are here because you can regress to the past, and you can fix it.

So those old events from the past, and their old emotions and limiting beliefs, no longer apply. That old past moment no longer has a negative effect on your present moment.

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